Embracing Imperfection!

खुशियों की चाभी हमारे हाथ में होती है। अब इसे किसी और की जेब में रखना है या अपनी में... ये हमें खुद ही सोचना होता है। अच्छी बात है... समझ में आ रही है।

जीवनभर दूसरों में कमियां निकालकर कभी-कभी हम खुद उन खुशियों से दूर रह जाते हैं जो हमारी हो सकती थीं। वजह यह होती है कि हम वह ढूंढ़ते हैं जिसमें ये भी हो और वो भी... और शायद सब कुछ हो... लेकिन क्या सब में वह सब होता है जो हम ढूंढ़ रहे हैं या हम में वह सब कुछ होता है जो सामने वाला ढूंढ़ रहा है। यह राज की बात है। इसको जान लेना चाहिए। जितना जल्दी हम जान जाएंगे उतनी जल्दी अपने को सुखी महसूस कर पाएंगे। तो चलिए आज से इस 'मिशन' में शामिल होते हैं।

मिशन है जल्द से जल्द खुशहाल होने का... और तरीका है ये कि किसी में संपूर्णता के बजाय यह देखें कि क्या अपूर्णता है उसके जीवन में... जिसे उसके जीवन में हमारी उपस्थिति पूर्ण कर सकती है।

आगरा से बृज खंडेलवाल ने ये वाकया भेजा है। कुछ विस्तार से समझ में आ जाएगी मेरी बात... शुभकामनाएं।

--धर्मेंद्र कुमार

When I was a little girl, I could remember, my mom making breakfast and dinner for us. And, I remember one night in particular, when she had made dinner after a long, hard day at work.

On that evening so long ago, my mom placed a plate of vegetables, salad and burnt chappati in front of my dad.

I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed.

Yet all my dad did was, to reach for his chappati, smile at mom and ask me how my day was at school.

I don't remember what I told him that night, but, I do remember watching him smear chatni on that chappati and eat every bite!

When I got up from the table that evening, I remember hearing my mom apologize to my dad for burning the chapati. And I'll never forget what he said.

Baby, I love burnt chapati.

Later that night, I went to kiss daddy good night and I asked him if he really liked his chapati burnt.

He wrapped me in his arms and said, Dear, your momma put in a hard day at work today and she's real tired, and besides, a little burnt chappati never hurt anyone.

You know life is full of imperfect things and imperfect people.

I am not the best housekeeper or cook.

What I'v learnt over the years, is that learning to accept each other's faults and choosing to celebrate each other's difference is one of the most important keys for creating a healthy growing and lasting relationship.

And that's my prayer for you today, that you will learn to take the good, the bad, and the ugly parts of your life and lay them at the feet of God because in the end, he's the only one who will be able to give you a relationship where burnt chappati isn't a deal-breaker.

We could extend this to any relationship, in fact. As understanding is the base of any relationship.

Be it a husband, wife or parent, child or even with friends.

Don't put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket, but, into your own.